To Invite or Not to Invite
The question of whether or not to invite children to a wedding is a very polarizing topic for many guests. Will you allow your guests to bring their children? If so, any and all ages? Or will your event be couples only? To prevent any hurt feelings, you need to tread very lightly on this topic, setting the groundwork in your wedding invitations, as well as any save the date cards.
If Inviting Children, Make this Clear on Wedding Invitations
The envelope of the wedding invitation should include ‘and family’, as opposed to just Mr. and Mrs. This implies that the children are also invited. If your invitations come with two envelopes, refer to the blog post specific to addressing inside or inner envelopes. To prevent plenty of questions from your guests, it can be helpful to clearly state on the invitation that children are welcome. You can also include a section on the RSVP card for children.
How to Convey the Adults Only Request
For weddings where children will not be in attendance, your guests will need to know as far in advance as possible. They will need to secure childcare, and because many parents rely on family members, this may be more of a challenge than usual. Unless stated on the invitation, parents will often just assume that their children are included with the invite.
You need to clearly state that the event will be for adults only. Referring to the “adult” event or “adults only” should be sufficient. However, if you want to be certain that everyone is clear, you can also include a line at the bottom of the invitation that states “We respectfully request no children” or “We are unable to accommodate children at our wedding”.
It is not unusual for a wedding to not include children. The key is to give your guests enough time that this restriction does not impede their own ability to attend the event.
Either way, once you have made the decision you must stick to it. Otherwise you risk allowing some guests to bring their children, while others have been told not to. This can lead to hurt feelings that can put a cloud over the entire wedding. Being clear up front in the wedding invitations can prevent a lot of these bad feelings, and ensure that your big day runs seamlessly.
All of our available wedding invitation designs give you the option to customize the wording to fit your celebration.